Tearing Society A New One!**Trigger Warning**
Posted by Mandy
Well I’ve had a pretty shitty day, so I’m gonna take it out on society(since it’s mostly them that give me bad days…seems fair) on one of the easiest topics possible: bullying. I refer to ‘bullying’ as the general, so any type of bullying(cyber bullying, emotional, physical ect.) because at the end of the day bullying boils down to two ‘institutions’: school and home. I’ll start with school first because it’s always my fave thing to ‘out'(I’m still sad I didn’t know they had demolished my primary school, I wanted to dance on it’s grave but there’s already flats on it). I’m going to do something that I generally don’t like to do and grossly over genrealise for a second, most socially related mental illnesses(social anxiety, paranoia, fear of people ect.) develop as a direct result of schooling or home and I’d say that school is the single most damaging intuitions ever. Yeah we had asylums and prisons where people where experimented on ect. but now days we’re against that kind of thing(in theory) but schools still are still everywhere! Yes, yes I know that we need to be educated and even though my primary school fucked up my life and me I know that I’d be nowhere without it and I’m thankful for that, however it’s broken. Stop and think for a second, how many things where you scared of because of school? Do you remember a kid that was always picked on? Did you do something that you’re really not proud of? How does this make you feel? Damaged, point made. I’d go into details of how my schooling fucked me up, but I can’t cause it’s all repressed but I do remember enough fragments to know the mains problem with all this optimistic stop bullying crap that people are spouting. Don’t get me wrong, I want to stop bullying it’s life crushing in a lot of cases, I object to the way that people are going about it. The main problems with school related bullying(again both cyber and in the playground) is that parents of the bully either don’t want to admit/accept that their child is a bully and/or they’ll make up a million and one excuses for their child. Now because the school wants to keep in business(oh geeze business approach and problems? who’d have thought!) if they meet too much resistance they will cave in, this highlights a new problem the school’s attitude. In a public school a lot of the teachers don’t really care about bullying(this I do remember, I had this experience a couple of years a go) or they over look it and privet schools? well they do the worse thing(in my opinion), they will actually hush up the bullying incidents to protect their reputation(again experienced this recently, in 2009 in fact). Schools have to start admitting that bullying is happening, they have to stop caving in and they need to start thinking with a humanitarian brain rather then a business one! This next element to school bullying is one of my favorites to talk about face-to-face with people because so many people are in the dark regarding this. Teachers bully too!That’s right my optimistic friends(how the hell did you end up here?) teachers will bully as well as other kids. I’ve fallen victim to this a couple of times, the first time not a whole lot was done because(true story!) the principal blackmailed my parents(so I’m told) so the second time this happened I didn’t bother telling anyone and just put up with this teacher belittling me. I remember one of the nicest things someone said to me was that they felt sorry for me because of the way that the teacher was treating me and the person who said it wasn’t really a friend either. The third time it happened I actually told someone, thinking that things might be better so many years later, well no they’re not! All the students in this teachers classes where scared of her and so no one would speak up with me, so the teacher lied about what happened and I wasn’t believed…I was having a hard enough time at this point so I said that I wasn’t going to her class again, and I didn’t. Society has said that bullying is unacceptable but it’s not showing this, constantly I hear people saying “Should he have been punished that harshly? He comes from a bad home after all.” and things to similar effect. Well guess what people?! Yes he does deserve to be punished that harshly, if it fits the crime. Society runs around telling people that it’s okay to do awful things to others if you come from a bad home, or if you’ve had a hard life…this kind of bull is COUNTER productive! At the end of the day all this kid is learning is that it’s okay to fuck up someone else life if yours is already fucked up. Having a hard life, or an illness is NO excuse to bully others, I know the kid that made my life hell in primary school used the excuse that he had ADHD and the school accepted that. Well because he had ADHD I now have depression, OCD, paranoia, a fear of men and a repressed childhood…what in that is okay? By this ‘logic’ I should then be able to go bully then next random person I meet, what makes me so much better then him and every other person that’s bullied me is that I wont do that. Tougher rules and laws need to be set up in regards to bullying before it’s going to stop, society needs to accept the ugly truths in bullying and everyone needs to stop rolling over for excuses. I don’t care if your mother is laying in hospital half brain dead, you don’t get to take it out on anyone else and you don’t get to make someone else feel like crap just because you do. I could go on now to talk about bullying/abuse within the family/home but I think I’ll leave that for another post.